Wednesday, June 5, 2019
Well then. I just logged in to update on my life as I start a two week liquid diet prior to having my sleeve converted to RNY. I didn't realize just how log it has been since I've written anything here.
My mother passed January 20, 2017. Life got HARD! I still struggle daily with not being able to call her when Nathan does something she would find amusing. I hate getting in the car and knowing I can't call her just to chit chat like I always did. I hate that her clothes I have stashed away in my closet are losing "her" smell.
I struggled for a few months after her passing with depression on my own before I went to my doctor for help. I was started on antidepressants and gained some weight. I had my yearly physical in 2017 and found out I have an under active thyroid. I gained weight. My PCOS flared up and my periods have gotten wonky, I'm having issues with skin discoloration, and facial hair.
In November of 2017 I left a job I had been at for nearly a decade and started working for an amazing company! I could never have realized how much the old job was sucking away at my life and energy until I left. I have some really great co-workers and my boss really is amazing. She has a get it done attitude and nothing is below her.
Since Nathan's birth I had gained almost 80 pounds. I've struggled a lot the last few months to lose some weight. I've gone from 279 and weighed in this morning at 267.
My husband is on the fence about me having surgery. My boss doesn't understand how someone would be so willing to have anatomy rearranged. I don't understand how I got here again.
My new surgeon, Dr. Vaydim Meytes, has insinuated that it wasn't all me. He believes wholeheartedly that sleeve surgery was and still is so new that they don't have a lot of long term data. Throw in PCOS with VSG and the data is even more limited to show success rates. He has also indicated that a lot of it could also be how my surgery was done and where my previous surgeon was at in his career and technique.
I've also developed a lot of symptoms of GERD since I started this process. This was confirmed by an endoscopy procedure. So in all honesty, even without the weight gain I was heading towards a revision anyway.
I want to believe that all of these factors are the cause of my regain. I want it to not be my fault. And yeah, I really have had some health issues smack me in the face that have caused some weight gain. But I've also found comfort and solace in foods I know I shouldn't be eating. It is hard to feel like you are living a life you have no control over. Things just keep happening no matter how hard you are trying that seem to be working against you. You can't control all the chaos. But you know what you can control? What you eat. In a life where you are constantly looking for the next bomb to drop you start to looking for ANYTHING positive to look forward to. Like your next snack or meal.
I can spend all day at work contemplating dinner in my mind. It will need to be something I can't get Nathan to eat, it'll need to be cooked rather quickly, something I can sneak a vegetable into that Nathan won't notice. I want it to be something that will reheat well for when Adam gets home. And I don't want it to make a huge mess to prepare because I hate doing dishes.
Well. Today that ends. Sort of. I will still have to come home and prepare dinner for my family for the next two weeks. It will be something healthy and nutritious. But for the next two weeks my meals consist of protein shakes and a lot of water.
I'm not even sure how to end this post. Has anyone else revised from VSG to RNY for regain? What has your experience been like?
Thursday, January 19, 2017
Word vomit.... dying mother. Help.
So, idk where to go or whom to talk to or with.
My mom is dying. We put her on hospice yesterday at her request. The knot in my stomach won't go away and I feel like I can't get a deep breath.
Since Nathan was six weeks old she has basically been bed ridden as a result of falling and breaking her femur. Two surgeries, a six month stint in a nursing home, a blood clot in the leg, another fall, dislodged blood clots moving to the lungs, congestive heart failure, kidney infection and failure.... and it all equals up to one extremely tired and worn out body.
My mother is not a small woman. She is so backed up with fluids that she is swollen to twice her normal size. Yesterday I was at the hospital all day and there was no urine output and what was already in the bag was so very dark. It looked like water that had been sitting in a rusty bowl for years.
Rachel and Alyse as always are actually probably the only thing between me and total.... I don't even know the word. Well, and Nathan. I hate leaving the hospital because I'm so scared my mother will die without me being there. But I so love the respite that I get when it's time to go home to Nathan and take care of him.
And today I have to go to work. Bills and landlords so not care if your parent is dying, so I still need to be earning money. Especially since it the next week or so it looks as if I will be taking off a chunk of time.
How can she be dying? She's still my mom. How is it she is still her with her smile and sense of humor, her barking orders and asking for this or that. How is it it feels like we've been at her bedside this sick for a hundred times before and she always rallies.
How is it she is dying? Doctors are saying this is terminal. Doctors are saying probably sooner rather than later. Doctors are saying it's bad enough that she was put on hospice. I helped filled out the paperwork. I signed paperwork.
My poor dad. He's so beside himself. He has devoted the last two years almost exclusively to taking care of her. I don't think he knows how to be Allen without Betsy. Do I know how to be Danielle without her mom?
I guess I'm about to find out.
Monday, February 9, 2015
February 2, 2015
Saturday, December 27, 2014
Feeling like a beached whale....
On Sister Christmas (Christmas Eve) we always get together play board games until the weee hours and end up at Denny's for a late night snack. This year we did Sister Christmas at The Moses residence (my place). Adam put out a spread of cheese and crackers and chips and guacamole, Alyse brought delicious no bake chocolate chip cookie dough that I could eat because it was made with no eggs (OMG! She is seriously my hero! I've so pissed cookie dough and pickles this pregnancy.)
Monday, November 3, 2014
Scariest day of my life
Last week at my twenty-four week checkup while in the waiting room to be called back we got a call from Adam's foot surgeon telling us his insurance wasn't going to pay for the surgery to fix his foot. My blood pressure at the appointment, was, needless to say slightly elevated.... A lot. So the doctor wanted to see me again in a week to check to see if things settled down.
Skip to today when said follow up appointment was to take place.
So this morning started out with Adam and I having a fight and him leaving for work and then more angry phone calls and hanging up on each other, lol. It was interesting. Then we both called an apologized and we planned to go about the rest of our days.
Adam's phone was out of minutes, so I made sure to re-plug in our house phone before leaving for work so I could call him after his blood work today to see how things went. When I plugged it into the electricity I got zapped. I didn't think anything of it and then went off to my appointment for the blood pressure re-check.
Blood pressure was perfect- everything was perfect. Then I mentioned to the doctor about the getting shocked and she decided to send me for an ultrasound just to make sure everything was okay. Well, the baby didn't do any "practice breathing" during the 30 minute scan.
Ultrasound tech sent me back up to the doctor. I start freaking out. Doctor calls me back in, says chances are it isn't a big deal because at twenty-five weeks the breathing thing isn't regular thing they do. However- she still wanted me monitored for a bit so she wanted me to go to Labor and Delivery to get hooked up and monitored for a few hours just to make sure his heart rate didn't do any dipping.
Well, I was alone. Adam had already left for work, I didn't know how to get in touch with him because his cell was out of minutes, and he wasn't answering our house phone. I called my sister hysterical and she told me to get my ass to the hospital and she'd hunt up my husband and get him to the hospital. Still freaking out, I took money from my rent to put minutes on Adam's phone so we could get in touch with him.
I get to the hospital, I get hooked up. I cry- A LOT. But there was his heartbeat, steady, strong, and consistent. He hated the pressure from the fetal monitors on my stomach and kept kicking out them. It was actually funny to watch.
Jessica and Adam kept taking turns with me in triage because they'd only let one person come stay in with me.
After two hours, I was given the all clear and told to follow up with my doctor again on Wednesday.
Picture from when I first got there, right after being told Nathan was okay, and Adam passed out in the waiting room.
Wednesday, September 10, 2014
Pregnancy and Weight Gain and Life- I'm more than just a VSG!
I'm 17w4d pregnant. Last year I got down to I think 178-9 pounds. After a rough winter of bordom, and limited finances = higher carb count than normal, I found myself gaining 20-25 pounds. I filled up the house with a WLS friendly supply of nutritious foods to work on losing the weight and found out I was pregnant. I quit smoking right then and probably ended up gaining another 5 pounds. At my first doctors appointment I weighed in at 210. I went down to 209 at the next appointment and was told by my doctor that had I not been pregnant it would easily have been closer to a 5 pound loss in that month. *sigh* oh well.
So, at my last appointment I tipped the scale at 217. My doctor is calling it a 7 pound pregnancy gain due to my starting weight. He thinks that is wonderful and that the average woman has gained between 5-10 pounds at this point.
I'm swollen and lets face it- I weighed maybe 190-195 when we picked out our wedding rings- I can't wear the wedding band, but my engagement ring fits... My double chin is creeping back in and I have a meltdown just about every morning while getting ready for work and I have to look in the mirror. Then I remind myself that I am growing another human being- a human being that I love so much more than I could ever love myself... Be it skinny self or 300+ pound self- I love the baby more!!
So, I'm okay with the weight gain. I plan to breast feed and everyone says that will help whip me back into shape a little faster- plus I'll be taking off three months when the baby comes so I won't be tempted by all the take out the girls order for lunch.
Now, I'm going to give you guys a huge photo dump.
Also, we've named our son. He will be named Nathan David and we love him so much. I love listening to his little heart with the doppler. Sometimes we can also hear him moving around with it. For a few weeks I've been able to get a sense of when he is active inside me, but not really feel him like feel him feel him. Well, two days ago I'm pretty sure I felt two little jabs at different points in the day.
We <3 him and can't wait to meet him!
Sunday, August 17, 2014
Why I hate today...
Joshua taught me how to drive stick shift when I was 15 and he was already 16. We had parties in the driveway with dancing and music and always found a way to have fun.
He took me on many vacations I never would have been able to do without him.
And then lies ruined our family and I haven't talked to him in over a year. Today he's 30 and I don't get to hug him and joke with him and tease him about being an old man.
He's not gonna come to the hospital when I have our baby and be proud of yet another nephew. He's not gonna slap Adam on the back and congratulate him.
My son isn't going to know his kids and they aren't going to play together and be cousins with each other the way I grew up with cousins.
I don't want this for our son. I want my son to grow up with a big family the way I did. I want him to have lots of cousins around him.
I want my fucking family back and I hate the asshole who ruined everything.
I want my aunt around to help me pick things out for my son and to help me decorate a nursery. I want my cousins at the baby shower and I don't want it to be awkward.
I want things I can't have. What else is new.